I started hearing about this list a few years back when a few of my friends started turning thirty. This milestone is getting close enough that Tim asks me once every three weeks what I want to do for my THIRTIETH (in a voice reminiscent a grade school teacher teaching his class how to say the word thirtieth) birthday. I always answer the same way: “I don’t knowwwwwww” in that whiney indecisive voice I save exclusively for my husband. After that I usually try to change the subject because I am a firm believer that things will not come to pass if you simply ignore it.
But when I am alone, I do think about turning thirty. And then I get excited and start scribbling down ideas, hopes, dreams and adventures I want to have. I have written several iterations of this list and it’s actually been really hard to come up with a solid 30 before 30! Because I like following rules, I’m going to change them so suit my needs.
Rule #1 – It doesn’t have to be 30 things.
The moment I tried to push myself to hit 30 things, the list started moving toward things that I felt like I should do instead of things I genuinely wanted to do. Examples of these obligatory adventures include: watching the Star Wars Trilogy, Reading a Tolstoy something and going to Chinese/Korean school (feel free to convince me otherwise). This should be fun, challenging and life-giving – not out of guilt or obligation! (This is a reoccurring life-lesson for me)
Rule #2 – It doesn’t have to be by the time I’m 30.
Not that I don’t love deadlines. Because I actually love them. I didn’t want to feed the fear of turning 30 by imagining that something was over. Thankfully Tim has gone before me and I’ve seen first hand that 30 doesn’t suddenly you turn into dinosaur. Not only that, you may actually get better. This analogy is totally kitsch but last time we were wine tasting, the wine guy (what do you call them??) was saying how young cabernets are like teenagers – loud, in your face, lacking sophistication… but as they age they are more refined, smooth, and confidently comfortable in their own skin. I want to believe that this is exactly what getting older is like. So there is no hard deadline for this list. I’ll just keep chugging along as I am alive and kicking!
Candy’s “30” before “30”
- Read the entire Harry Potter series
- Successfully carve (The snowboarding kind)
- Order room service at a hotel
- Fitness Goals (Dead lift 2x my body weight, Clean and Jerk my body weight, Back Squat 1.5X my body weight, run a 7:30 mile, complete 10 doubleunders, carry Tim up a flight of stairs)
- Give something away every day for 30 days straight
- Take a shot. No mixers. No ice. No chasers.
- Memorize a meaningful piece of writing verbatim.
- Write a letter to my grandparents in Chinese.
- Write a letter to Tim’s parents in Korean.
- Grow something from a seed and eat it.
- Expand my egg cooking repertoire: poach the perfect egg, make hollandaise, soft-boil egg, fried egg
- Make macarons
- Debone a chicken
- Bike somewhere to run and errand and bike back (background info, I just learned how to ride a back last summer in a Google Parking lot. I haven’t gotten on a bike since.)
- Make curtains and pillows.
- Make a five course gourmet meal
- Learn all the lyrics to a rap song.
- Watch a movie in a park (I am not allowed to fall asleep)
- Swim (getting in the water counts) with a large mammal (non humans)
- Visit the South (as defined by me) This includes: Texas, Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, Tennessee, South Carolina, North Carolina
- Read a play in one sitting.
- Complete a race of some kind.
- Write a letter to Obama.
- Give generously. Anonymously.
- Build something out of wood.
Let me know if you want to join me on an adventure. I would LOVE the company!